Bug, the 10 year old, forged my ex-husband's signature on a letter that got sent home because she had not been turning in her schoolwork on time. Ex & I agreed (shockingly enough) that she should be grounded (she usually does really well in school, and her behavior is pretty good most of the time, too). I began her grounding the next day, which was a Thursday, but my ex didn't start her grounding because he ALWAYS sends the kids to his parents' house on his weekend. Mind you, he has a one and a half year old that doesn't go to his parents, just Bug and Bubber. Bubber told me they HAD to go to the grandparents, because my ex HAD to work on cars on Saturday (this is not his regular job, but a side job he does with his wife's cousin, and certainly not a job he has to do every weekend). Apparently his desire to make extra money and get the older kids "out of his hair" for the weekend overrides the necessity for our daughter to learn that she can't do things like forging signatures and lying. Of course, I wonder who was watching his other child if he HAD to send the older ones to his parents' house....
Anyway, it looks like most of the people who voted agreed with my opinion that the discipline comes first. Period.
So thanks to everyone who voted - I'm glad you took the time to let me know what you think!!
2 comments:
I KNEW the story behind the question would eventually come out. I did have to ponder it a bit though. Hoping the forging is a one-time deal, maybe since she got caught she won't be tempted to do it again...
Boy did I have some catching up to do! I saw that poll and did not notice the 3 or so posts beneath it...
Kind of a shame that his weekends with his children turn into an opportunity to ship them off...At least they get to spend time with grandma, though.
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